Make me wait?

I respect the 3-month rule. The rule I am referring to is the one in which person (female more often than male) sets a 3-month time requirement on how long the need to have been dating before they have sexual relations.

Its a smart rule. It can take between 3-6 months after infection for someone to test positive for HIV. I highly doubt the first date people have is to the clinic especially when they expect not to have sex for at least 3-months. Sexually active people (ideally) should be getting tested every 3 months given this information.

Another thing that contributes to the 3-month rule is the respect issue. One may be lead to believe that if a person has sex early with them, then they have with others as well. That is most often then not discouraged in this society. One wants to feel that they are special and not just a notch on the belt.

Here's where I cut the bull and get down to it and stop being so politically correct. Its more common for women to seek mental attraction as opposed to physical attraction, as well as it more common for men to seek physical attraction as opposed to mental attraction. So when a woman invokes a 3-month rule, she is seeking to get to know her partner better before she gets physical. Its quite understandable. They want to know that they are mentally compatible. There are plenty exceptions such as women that cut to the chase, or men who take more time than usual, but those are the lesser of the numbers.

I don't agree with the 3-month rule if there is a relationship to come out of it. Honestly, if we are not sexually compatible then I know that I can not marry that woman. Think about it. This means its going to be a bad experience after dark for the rest of our lives. I can not doom myself to that. This not to say that I would accept a perfectly compatible sexual partner minus us clicking on a mental level. Thats unacceptable as well. I just wouldn't want to waste a perfectly nice woman's time trying to get to know me and building bridges, when at the end of that period I found out that we aren't clicking physically and then I indefinitely have to break it off. It's not fair to us both.